Discovery One: Destroying The Illusion

I’ve made two personal discoveries, both of which I believe can contribute greatly to students of seduction. They came to me at the same time. They are both ideas that are worthy of further exploration from those who spend time thinking on such matters.

Discovery the first:

Seduction is easy. The difficulty lies in destroying the illusion that seduction is not easy.

Seduction is the easiest thing in the world to do. It is a simple process that requires no learning. The ability to seduce is innate. It is not something that outside oneself, requiring learning from books, videos and seminars. Rather, it is built into our very biology. The circuitry has been place your whole life.

The reason why “naturals”, men who have always been able to seduce with ease find it difficult and frustrating to teach others what they themselves are doing, is because that which they are doing is indeed natural.

Those who teach often refer to their progams and methods as providing “training  wheels”, a framework from which to build success. I see that they do something else. They are providing a push-start. Rather then encouraging learners to follow a process, teachers should instead focus on waking up the innate, natural instincts of the learner.

There are many advantages to the student for this “kickstart” approach. The student will know that they are not reliant on techniques or process. They won’t have to worry about memorising routines.  They will know that they are not relying on outside information. And thus, their natural instincts will kick in sooner.

On Destroying The Illusion.

Every species has a courtship ritual. A mating dance. The ritual for our species may not be entirely mapped out yet, but enough of it is known that it can be said it exists. Bizarrely enough, the courtship process of our species as a whole is something that has not been studied by science. Anthropology has examined mating as constrained by the bounds of culture, and biology and psychology have examined discreet aspects of the whole. But that whole has remained outside of any academic field of study.

However, from what little we know, we can see that the human mating dance does have a structure that transcends the boundaries of culture. And enough of that structure is known for we men to be able to initiate the mating dance, and to take our desired partner or partners through to consumation.

If you are a man who is learning to effectively communicate with women in order to fill the need for physical love in your life, then learning that structure might be very helpful. It certainly has been for me.

But there come a time when abandoning your mental maps will help you navigate the territory more effectively.

Rather than learning the map in more detail, simply forget it. Get rid of your ideas of process and “the seduction state-machine”. Your body already knows how to tell whether a woman wants you, how much she wants you, and how far she is willing to go at any moment in time. All you have to do is wake up that ability. Throw away your books on body language, and consult your own instinct instead. It has served your forebears for hundreds of thousands of years. You just need to learn to listen to that  system. And you can certainly trust your own genetic programming better than any book.

One way to begin activate that system is as follows. Go out on your own to a club or a bar. Spend time watching the body language of the individuals in the groups around you. Pay particulair attention to how the women react to the men. Consider what the women are telling the men with the movements of their bodies.

Another way is to make eye contact with women in the street. Make different kinds of eye contact. Deliberately look into their souls. Merely glance at the surface of their eyes. See how they react to you.

Try different things.

When approaching women, pay attention to what she is saying with her body. But, in all these things, don’t try to intellectuallize what it is that you are seeing. What your intellect observes is of no consequence. It is your mating mind that matters. The deep, irrational circuitry of attraction.